Know that effort in the relationship won’t always be 50-50. Sometimes your partner may be limited physically, emotionally, or mentally. If your partner is facing the loss of a loved one, challenges with employment, or recovering from the birth of your baby, there is likely going to be a need for you to step in and offer extra care and support. Have a conversation about this, let your partner know you understand how difficult things are for them, and let them know you are there and how you can help.

With each and every day in your marriage, you’re presented with an opportunity and a choice to take action toward the marriage you desire. It’s not always the easiest path to take, but it’s well worth it in the end. Always ask yourself, is what I’m about to do/say getting me closer to or further away from the type of marriage I would like to create?

Within the last decade, the stigma around therapy has decreased significantly. While couples therapy once might have caused others’ to assume there was trouble, instability, or wrongdoing in the marriage, couples therapy now has proven to be a powerful catalyst for deepened connection and improved relationship satisfaction.